Its not about me...
There is this guy, who is a normal human being. And as all the normal human beings do, he also have a love story. But due to some reasons, the love story got broken down in between, from the girl's side, reasons were not clear, nor acceptable for this guy.
Now, every human being fall in love, and almost 25% of them makes it to the marriage. the rest? well, probably ends up marrying someone else and some go extreme and having no marriage life in their future.
Now, imagine how hard it is to that guy. Say his love affair was strong, he had a roadmap about his future with that young lady, he planned things for them, dreamt a lot about the life he is going to have with her, etc, etc, etc...
But, all of a sudden these all are in vain. Acceptable that this is not a big deal when compared to the pains the poor people all over the world facing in their daily routine, but for him, this pain is somewhat bigger than any pain in the world.
There are so many problems he need to face: Assume he is of late 80's born guy. then by this time he will be ( he is! :) ) nearing his thirties... by this time if his story goes for a fluster, then how can he start for a new life with someone else? almost all of his batch mates and guys younger to him would have been engaged. So who is he going to find for himself? Its always very much hard to find a match when you are in late twenties, and falling in love for the second time is only possible in movies. Plus if you have to go for a girl, then definitely you won't be getting someone younger than 22 as of now. because time had gone when he spent almost 7 or 8 years in his relationship with that girl, meantime everyone of his age or younger got married or engaged. And only the girls of age 22 are remaining in the marriage market. Then this age gap itself will be a big problem for him to suffer in marriage life.
The next problem is his life, his real working and scholastic life. When a guy is in love failure, he will not be having the mindset of listening to his lead's "innovation" ideas and if he is a software geek, he will lack in concentration. which will badly affect the hierarchy of that guy, he won't go places as expected. its kind of the time he performs neutral or low. a period which in software companies referred to as " bench". It drastically affects his career, he will not get the salary he expect to have, he will not get the promotion he was waited for, and more over, he will sulk on the job because even though he earns all, he doesn't have a girl to share the joy of him. Usually the geek guys will be having relationships, they may vary, one to one, one to many, etc. But this guy will be noted by girls as a loser since he don't have a catch, and that thinking will increase when he don't perform well at work as well.
One more thing is his family. The cousins and younger siblings of him will be thinking of him as a useless guy. Reasons are a lot. cousins of parallel age would have been married 2 or 3 years earlier and by now would be having kids too. So they will be thinking about this guy as he is a waste of the country, as he is not having a girl and he is not even trying to marry someone. (yes, this guy will not like to marry since he has that girl in his mind still) Younger siblings will take him as a stupid kiddo since those youngsters would be having affairs, so he will be the stopping point for their marriage.
Altogether, its a sick and heck kind of situation for him. He will survive, I guess.
P.S : Again, its not about me...
There is this guy, who is a normal human being. And as all the normal human beings do, he also have a love story. But due to some reasons, the love story got broken down in between, from the girl's side, reasons were not clear, nor acceptable for this guy.
Now, every human being fall in love, and almost 25% of them makes it to the marriage. the rest? well, probably ends up marrying someone else and some go extreme and having no marriage life in their future.
Now, imagine how hard it is to that guy. Say his love affair was strong, he had a roadmap about his future with that young lady, he planned things for them, dreamt a lot about the life he is going to have with her, etc, etc, etc...
But, all of a sudden these all are in vain. Acceptable that this is not a big deal when compared to the pains the poor people all over the world facing in their daily routine, but for him, this pain is somewhat bigger than any pain in the world.
There are so many problems he need to face: Assume he is of late 80's born guy. then by this time he will be ( he is! :) ) nearing his thirties... by this time if his story goes for a fluster, then how can he start for a new life with someone else? almost all of his batch mates and guys younger to him would have been engaged. So who is he going to find for himself? Its always very much hard to find a match when you are in late twenties, and falling in love for the second time is only possible in movies. Plus if you have to go for a girl, then definitely you won't be getting someone younger than 22 as of now. because time had gone when he spent almost 7 or 8 years in his relationship with that girl, meantime everyone of his age or younger got married or engaged. And only the girls of age 22 are remaining in the marriage market. Then this age gap itself will be a big problem for him to suffer in marriage life.
The next problem is his life, his real working and scholastic life. When a guy is in love failure, he will not be having the mindset of listening to his lead's "innovation" ideas and if he is a software geek, he will lack in concentration. which will badly affect the hierarchy of that guy, he won't go places as expected. its kind of the time he performs neutral or low. a period which in software companies referred to as " bench". It drastically affects his career, he will not get the salary he expect to have, he will not get the promotion he was waited for, and more over, he will sulk on the job because even though he earns all, he doesn't have a girl to share the joy of him. Usually the geek guys will be having relationships, they may vary, one to one, one to many, etc. But this guy will be noted by girls as a loser since he don't have a catch, and that thinking will increase when he don't perform well at work as well.
One more thing is his family. The cousins and younger siblings of him will be thinking of him as a useless guy. Reasons are a lot. cousins of parallel age would have been married 2 or 3 years earlier and by now would be having kids too. So they will be thinking about this guy as he is a waste of the country, as he is not having a girl and he is not even trying to marry someone. (yes, this guy will not like to marry since he has that girl in his mind still) Younger siblings will take him as a stupid kiddo since those youngsters would be having affairs, so he will be the stopping point for their marriage.
Altogether, its a sick and heck kind of situation for him. He will survive, I guess.
P.S : Again, its not about me...
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